Finally! The very important individual goal setting workshop. Drum roll, please. This is the part that always made me freeze up and just stare at my journal. It’s the part where I just couldn’t get beyond, until now. To be clear, I CAN and HAVE some goals. Daily and weekly ones and a few “wouldn’t it be nice if” All the “things to do” written down and followed, more or less. I get that part. I’ve had yearly goals and some life goals. Some, I’ve hit and some, not so much.
The part I had trouble with was seeing the goals that matter. Like, what did I really want to be, do and have? What did I really believe I was sent here to do? How could I get beyond my own limiting beliefs and break free? How could I use the talents I was given and be able to soar? If I chose one thing, what about all the things I was choosing against? How do you figure out one’s right livelihood?
Then, there was the really unsettling part. What if I chose a goal, and it was the wrong goal? This was enough to paralyze me for years and when I looked back to see where that came from, it was certainly connected to how I was raised. At the time, in my young innocence, I didn’t know any better.
Guess I kept hoping I’d figure out my life as I went along. Does this mean I experienced no success? No. I’ve had different areas of excellence and satisfaction along the way, but my focus lacked the laser intensity that is born in me now.
In this article, the focus is on listing goals and developing a time line for their fulfillment. Why is there so much focus on having clear goals and writing them?
Tony talks about three areas of goals:
1). Personal Development Goals: which include physical health, talent development, spiritual, educational, learning new skill development and having a satisfying social life
2). Things You Want to Have: Here, think big in what you’d like to have in your life. Where would you want to live? Do you want to travel? Do you want some toys? Trips? Second home? Better neighborhood? Sports equipment? Concerts? Culture?
3). Economic Goals: Here’s the money part. Do you want to invest? How long before you’re totally out of debt? Do you want to be debt-free? Are you interested in residual income? From what sources? Do you want your own business? How much money do you want to make? This year? 5 years from now? You can aim higher than “just getting by.” If not now, then when?
Now, take a few minutes and write a list of goals under each of these areas and when you’re committed to achieving them. Look down the road at 1, 3, 5, 10, and 20 years down the road.
Next, select your top three goals in each category. Write a paragraph or so about why you are committed to achieving those goals. Have some fun with this and think big.
There needs to be leverage to help guide you to achieving your goals. Remember the exercise where we link pain to not succeeding in an area and pleasure to the change? Those skills are the tools to make the sustainable changes you want.
There is a great study done on the importance and effectiveness of writing goals. It was done by Gail Matthews, Ph.D., of Dominican University. You can look it up if you want to check it out. It is also referenced on my blog. Read it and enjoy. I am not associated with this organization.
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